A primer to better relationships

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Relationships are the foundation upon which we build success, whether that be success in business or life. Relationships provide us with support and resources. The more positive relationships we have in our life, the more we can draw upon to lift ourselves up. Relationships allow us to persevere when things get rough and leverage opportunities when times are good. But this only happens if we know how to nurture strong connections.

Relationship building is not something we are taught in school nor is it part of the employee’s manual at work. It is something we are expected to know how to do, but most people only have a vague understanding of how to do it.

Relationships can become especially difficult to cultivate at work where we may not share the same values, beliefs, likes and past experiences with our co-workers.

Here’s a primer to building better relationships. If do these four things, you will be on the way to building nurturing stronger relationships at work and home.

1. Don’t make people feel stupid.

No one likes to feel dumb. It’s a big hit to our self-esteem and we will avoid people who make us feel this way.

2. Don’t make people feel unappreciated.

Appreciation is the life blood of relationships. We need to know people value our contributions and recognize what we bring to the table. If we feel unappreciated, we won’t be motivated to give to the relationship.

3. Don’t make people feel unloved.

Belonging is a fundamental human need. We strive to be accepted as part of a group and be provided with the safety and security that it brings. If someone feels like an outcast, they will pull back and not put forth all they have to offer.

4. Don’t make people feel unworthy.

People need to feel valued just for who they are, not only for what they bring to the table. They need to know they are worthy of your time, energy and attention. If they feel unworthy, they won’t be able to bring their best to the relationship.

A Team Human Conversation

Fight workplace zombies in your organization and join Team Human! Gather a group of fellow workplace zombie hunters to discuss our most recent blog post. Use the questions below to kick start your conversation.

  1. What makes a relationship strong?
  2. What makes a relationship weak?
  3. What can you do more of to nurture stronger relationships?