It's not you (but it really is)
Feedback comes in two general forms – feedback on skills and feedback on personality. While feedback on either can be difficult to hear, feedback on skills is the easier of the two. Improving skills or learning new skills is more removed from our self-esteem and is easier to achieve.
However, how do you change your personality? How do you not take it to heart? This is the feedback that really hits hard. Whether it be that you are too emotional, too cold, too open, too closed, too loud, too quiet, too something – or, on the flip side – not enough of something else.
The reality is, you probably aren’t going to be able to change your personality all that much. After all, it’s who you are. You can’t easily excise part of yourself. What you can do, is make the choice to change your actions.
But, why would you do this? You do this when it will lead to better relationships with others, and when it will allow you to do your job better. Sometimes, it is necessary to adjust the way we engage with others in order to build better connections, communicate more clearly and work through conflict. And at times, our jobs will require us to step outside of what is comfortable for us in order to do them more effectively.
At the end of the day, most people don’t need to change who they are, but we all need to recognize that there will be times we need to adjust our actions for our own benefit.
A Team Human Conversation
Fight workplace zombies in your organization and join Team Human! Gather a group of fellow workplace zombie hunters to discuss our most recent blog post. Use the questions below to kick start your conversation.
Describe a time when you’ve been given feedback about your personality. How did it feel?
Do you change the way you act with certain people to get along better?
Do you have to act in ways outside your comfort zone sometimes to do your job better?