Kurt Cobain said, “No one is afraid of heights, they’re afraid of falling down. No one is afraid of saying I love you, they’re afraid of the answer.”
Often, we mistake the root of what is holding us and others back. We think we’re afraid of public speaking because it’s scary to talk in front of a room full of people. But what we’re really afraid of is not the speaking, but the audience not liking us.
We think we don’t give feedback because we’re worried about upsetting someone when mostly we’re concerned with how we’ll have to deal with the person after we upset them.
We’re not afraid of the new project. We’re afraid of the new project failing and what it will mean to our career. Or, we’re afraid the new project will be a brilliant success and we’ll be expected to do it again.
It is not the action, but the consequence, and its impact on us, that creates the stress. When we can train ourselves to handle the consequences – both good and bad – then we will be more prepared to step forward into the risk.
A Team Human Conversation
Fight workplace zombies in your organization and join Team Human! Gather a group of fellow workplace zombie hunters to discuss our most recent blog post. Use the questions below to kick start your conversation.
Think of one thing you are afraid of doing. What is the root cause of that fear?
What can you do to better handle the consequences of the fear?
What can you do as an organization or team to better equip people to take more risks?